Musings of an Old Chemist

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Tag: adversity

  • Faith and the Serenity Prayer

    Faith and the Serenity Prayer

    “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

    courage to change the things I can,

    and wisdom to know the difference.”

    The Serenity Prayer requires that we distinguish between the variables we have the power to change and circumstances we must accept.

    The heart of this prayer is the third line: wisdom. When we look through the lens of faith, figuring out what to change and what to let go of isn’t just a mental challenge; it’s an exercise based in humility, trust, and our perception of the world around us.

    What can we change? We all have control over our choices, how we react in situations, our moral character, how much effort we put out in our daily activities, and how we treat others. Faith gives us the courage to act when fear, comfort, or our downright reluctance to act tempts us to remain passive. It defines our actions not as an attempt to control our world, but as a responsibility to do good with the resources and energy we have.

    What things must we accept? First of all, we need to recognize that we are not in control of the universe and that there are limitations on what we can do. This means we must accept that we cannot control other people’s actions and reactions, we cannot change the past, and that there will always be loss in our lives, from the death of our parents, broken relationships, losing jobs, to our dreams of success. Faith allows us to recognize that our human limitations offer relief rather than defeat. Through faith, acceptance of those things we cannot change is not a negative action; it is an act of surrender and trust. It means we release our illusion of control to a higher authority, allowing us to stop burning energy trying to rewrite history or force other people to change.

    Conclusion

    Understanding what to change and what to accept isn’t a problem to solve once and set aside – it is a daily, living practice. Some days will require the courage to step up, speak out, and make a difference. Other days will ask for the quiet, solemn strength to release what was never ours to carry in the first place.

    You don’t need to have every possible outcome of every decision you make planned out, nor do you need total control over tomorrow to live well today. Every time you face adversity, pause, take a breath, and choose wisdom over panic. Focus simply on the single step right in front of you. Trust that your honest effort is enough where you can act, and trust that you can let go where you cannot. 

    Shifting our trust to God changes everything. It allows us to say: “I will do my best with the gifts and opportunities I’ve been given, but the final outcome is in Your hands.” This turns the Serenity Prayer into a source of peace. It lets us breathe again, knowing that while we are responsible for our actions, God is in control of the results.

  • Weekly Quotation: October 7, 2025: The Power of Humility and Wisdom

    Weekly Quotation: October 7, 2025: The Power of Humility and Wisdom

    For your consideration:

    The moment we believe that success is determined by an ingrained level of ability as opposed to resilience and hard work, we will be brittle in the face of adversity.

    – Joshua Waitzkin


    I believe we are all endowed by God with unique gifts and abilities. Our professional and personal success is determined by how we embrace the responsibilities that accompany these blessings. From my experience, the belief that one is the “smartest person in the room,” based on a misguided self-assessment or external validation, such as our parents for example, and therefore we don’t need to make an investment of time and effort in our own success, is pure arrogance and a path to failure.

    Throughout my life, I’ve made the mistake of thinking I didn’t need to put in the effort, acknowledge my shortcomings, or address my weaknesses by seeking counsel from more knowledgeable and experienced individuals. Shamefully, I follow the same pattern too often. When I’m offered a new opportunity that challenges my present mindset, I throw myself wholeheartedly into gaining the knowledge needed to be successful. Yet, once I feel like I am recognized as an “expert” by my supervisors, coworkers, or, worse yet, my own perception of my abilities, I become arrogant, stop seeking the input of others, and start to think that my way is the only way. For every step forward along my path to personal success, I take two steps back.

    Now in my sixties, I have lived enough life to understand that wisdom is a crucial component in facing adversity, in persevering through hard times, and in being resilient. Wisdom that comes through knowledge and experience. A wisdom I’ve found by rediscovering scripture, particularly the books of Psalms and Proverbs. Despite how the world and technology have evolved, the struggles we encounter as humans on our journey to becoming better people remain the same. We simply need to be humble enough to seek guidance beyond ourselves.

  • Using the Scientific Method to Overcome Adversity

    Using the Scientific Method to Overcome Adversity

    Every one of us, at some point in our lives, will face adversity and failure. Times when we fall short of expectations, whether it is the expectations others have for us or the expectations we have for ourselves. As students, it may be a poor exam grade, an incomplete or missed assignment, or even failing a course. You may fail to get the ACT score you need, or fail to be admitted to the college you desire. As adults, we may face setbacks like a failed job interview or missing out on a position we covet. A negative annual performance review could mean not getting the raise you feel like you deserve. Relationships and marriages can fail, and communication breakdowns can leave us questioning what went wrong. Life inevitably brings challenges: the loss of loved ones, health concerns, retirement, and the realization that we’re not as young as we used to be. The key lies in how we choose to confront these difficulties.


    The Scientific Method’s Role in Dealing With Adversity

    Most of us are familiar with the scientific method, a cornerstone of science education from middle school through college. For those who need a refresher, the scientific method consists of five steps or actions: Observation, Question, Hypothesis, Experiment, and Analysis/Conclusions.

    How Can I Use the Scientific Method to Deal With Adversity? 

    I would argue that the key step is observation, being able to separate yourself from the emotion and act as an outside viewer of the situation, watching without judgment. Observation combined with self-awareness, asking yourself, “What are my strengths?, “What are my weaknesses?”, and “What truly motivates me?” These are the essential principles in applying the scientific method to adversity. It’s the perspective that allows you to treat a challenge not as an attack on you, but as a problem to be solved. 

    Once you accept this attitude and put it into practice, the scientific method becomes a powerful tool for dealing with adversity, changing it from an emotional crisis into a manageable process of observation and experimentation.


    Real-life Example: You get a “D” on your chemistry assignment.

    Step One: Observation

    Adversity strikes, and your first step is to resist the emotional pull to react immediately. We often make the situation worse by reacting without thinking, responding in ways we’ll come to regret later. Not just in our words, but in our actions and decisions we make in the moment. We need to take a step back and become an objective viewer of the situation at hand. 

    First, you observe the situation without being judgmental or emotional, asking yourself:  

    “What are the facts of this situation?” 

    Break the situation down, make an objective, non-emotional analysis. The assignment was due three days ago, and I submitted it today, three days late. The classroom policy is that for every day an assignment is late, there is a letter grade penalty.

    “What are the emotions am I feeling?” 

    Angry, I worked really hard on this assignment. Embarrassed, all my friends got better grades than I did.

    “What thoughts are running through my  mind?” 

    My teacher is just being mean; he doesn’t like me, and he’s picking on me. And this policy is really unfair.

    “What are the other variables at play?”

    I spent my time playing a new video game I just got instead of working on the assignment. I struggle with procrastination, putting off all my assignments until the last minute.

    As you gather information, treat your emotions and thoughts as “data” points rather than truths to be acted upon.

    Step Two: Identify a Question

    From this place of calm observation, you formulate a specific, solvable question. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?”, you ask, “What is the real problem I need to solve here?” This question must be objective and actionable, similar to a chemist asking, “What are the souces of error causing this reaction to fail?”

    For this situation, your core problem you need to solve is that you procrastinate.

    Step Three: Create a Hypothesis

    Next, you develop a theory about how to approach the problem. This is your educated guess about a potential solution. Your hypothesis is a path forward, a specific action you will take to test your theory. It might sound like this: “If I communicate my feelings calmly and clearly, then I can find a resolution to this conflict.” Or, “If I study more, then I will do better on my exam.”

    Because you struggle with procrastination, you may decide to start on an assignment the day it is assigned, or do your work at the dining room table, not in your room where you’re easily distracted. Maybe ask your parents to help or ask a friend to be a “study buddy” to help keep you accountable.

    Step Four: Perform an Experiment

    This is where you put your hypothesis into action. You take a deliberate, measured step to test your theory. The experiment isn’t a rash decision; it’s a controlled action designed to provide data. You act or change your behavior, and you carefully observe the results.

    For example, for the next assignment, you decide to test your hypothesis by starting the day it is assigned and doing your work at your kitchen table, not in your room.

    Step Five: Analysis & Conclusion

    After the experiment, you analyze the results. Did your new approach work? Did the situation improve, or did your emotions shift in a positive way?

    Based on the analysis, you draw a conclusion. If your hypothesis was correct, you’ve found a new, effective way to handle that specific type of adversity. If it wasn’t, you haven’t failed; you’ve simply gathered new information. That new information allows you to formulate a new hypothesis and start the cycle over again.


    While it is not always easy, assuming responsibility for our failures and admitting our shortcomings never is, by applying this systematic, analytical approach, you may find that adversity is no longer a personal attack. It becomes a solvable problem, and you become the master architect who learns from every challenge and uses that knowledge to become a stronger, more resilient you.