Musings of an Old Chemist

A Chemist's Perspective on the Habits and Skills STEM Students Need For Success

Tag: commitment

  • Ignite Your Growth: The Fire Triangle of Learning

    Ignite Your Growth: The Fire Triangle of Learning

    Think about a campfire. To keep it going, you need three simple things: heat, oxygen, and fuel. Scientists call this the “fire triangle.” If you take even one of those away, the fire goes out, and you’re left with cold ash.

    Our minds work the same way. Whether you’re a student trying to learn something new or a parent helping them out, staying curious and excited about growth follows this same rhythm. To keep your “inner fire” burning, you have to know how to feed it, give it air, and light the match.

    Real change doesn’t just happen by accident. Just like a real fire, your personal growth depends on three main parts: Heat (the spark to start), Oxygen (your curiosity), and Fuel (what you’re learning)

    How to Get Things Moving

    To keep your momentum going, you need to let energy flow through four different types of fuel:

    Spark (Your Choice) → Tinder (Tiny Actions) →  Kindling (Your Routine) →  Logs (Big Goals)  →  Coals (Your “Why”)

    The Spark

    The Spark is just your decision; it’s your commitment. It’s that moment where you say, “Okay, I’m going to do this.”It’s tiny, but without it, the tinder (like opening a book, putting on your shoes, or in my case, writing the first outline) never catches fire. If you miss it, you can have the best plans and the best books, but without that one decision to strike the match, nothing happens. The decision to sit down right now and strike the match exclusively onto tinder. You don’t decide to “finish that report or project today”; you simply need to decide to take the first step and type one sentence.

    Heat: The Energy of Wonder

    Fuel just sits there unless something starts the reaction. In life, curiosity is what provides that heat. It’s asking, “What if?” or “How does this work?” That bit of wonder turns your potential into action.

    You can have the perfect amount of tinder, kindling, and hardwood and a gentle breeze providing the flow of oxygen, but nothing happens until you introduce heat. In science, that heat is the “activation energy” needed to get things started. For us, that heat is excitement and purpose. It’s that jolt you feel when you see a problem or a new skill and think, “I want to figure this out.” Allowing us to transition from being a passive observer to an active participant. Heat enables you to fully engage in the process.

    Oxygen: Fresh Ideas and Perspectives

    A fire can’t breathe in a closed container. Without fresh air, the flames just turn into smoke and go out.

    In our minds, oxygen is asking questions and listening. It’s easy to stick to what we already know, but a growing mind needs a “draft.” It needs us to listen to different ideas and welcome a good discussion. When we open up to new thoughts, we give our curiosity room to breathe.

    To keep the fire bright, try treating life like a science experiment. Try using the Scientific Method. That’s your oxygen. It just means trying something new, watching what happens, and thinking about the results. When you look at things this way, a “mistake” isn’t a failure—it’s just a clue. Adjusting your plan gives the fire a fresh breath of air.

    When you’re curious (oxygen is in excess), you do your work because you actually want to find a solution to a problem or just to see what happens. The question you ask yourself is: “What can I learn here that I didn’t know before?”

    When you’re just going through the motions, you’re just doing work to look smart or get it over with. When you’re just putting on an act, your efforts feel like a chore, and instead of a flame (heat),  you get just a pile of sticks.

    Fuel

    In our “campfire” model, your fuel is your love of learning. It’s your energy and beliefs just waiting to be tapped. Every fire needs something to burn. In your life, fuel is everything you’re taking in: books, hobbies, and even just observing the world around you.

    Learning doesn’t end when you leave the classroom. If you stop reading new things or trying new skills, you starve your “fire. To keep it going, you have to feed your mind with interesting stories, science, art, and new ideas every day.

    The Different Types of Fuel

    To keep your fire from going out, you can’t just throw everything in at once. Fire needs a specific order to work right. For example: If you throw a huge log on a tiny match, you’ll just squash the flame. If you only burn dry leaves, you’ll be striking matches all day without getting warm. To build a life that stays bright, you need to understand the four layers of your fuel pile.

    Tinder: Getting Started

    Tinder isn’t meant to last a long time. In our personal growth “campfire”, tinder is tiny, “No-Brainer” actions. Its only job is to get you off the couch and past that “I don’t want to do this” feeling.

    Since tinder is so easy to light, it doesn’t take much willpower. It’s just saying, “I’ll write one sentence,” or “I’ll just open my book.” Don’t try to plan your whole future with tinder; just use it to get things moving. For me, it’s opening this manuscript, reading the last sentence I wrote yesterday, or adding three bullet points to a chapter outline.

    Kindling: Building a Routine

    Once your tinder is lit, you need kindling. For students, this is your study habits; for the rest of us, this is our daily routines, the 30 to 90 minutes we spend actually focused on what we need to accomplish.

    Kindling turns that quick spark into real heat. Without a routine, our small decision to start an effort (tinder) just burns out.  Kindling keeps the flame alive until the big log catches. One session won’t finish a big project, but ten sessions in a row will. For me, it represents getting up early and spending 45 minutes writing, three days a week

    Hardwood Logs: Major Goals

    Logs are your major life goals, like graduating, writing a book, or mastering a hard skill. They contain a significant amount of energy but need a lot of heat to get started. They can give you personal success and satisfaction for a long time, but you can’t light them with a single match. You don’t just “start” with a log. You use your tender (decision) and kindling (habits) to build up enough heat until the log finally ignites. Once it does, it becomes a steady source of energy. You can’t just wish a big goal into existence. If you only focus on the massive finish line, you’ll just feel stuck. You have to work your way up. In my case, my hardwood “log” is a published, 60,000-word completed manuscript draft.

    The last consideration is one we do not often recognize to be part of our “campfire scenario, but is an absolute necessity for a successful, vibrant campfire: the bed of coals that exists under the burning fuel.

    The Bed of Coals: The “Why”

    Under the logs is the most important part of our personal growth campfire: the glowing coals. This is our core “Why”, the real reason we care about what we’re doing. This isn’t about grades or awards. It’s about your true desire to learn, to grow, and to help others along the way. When life gets hard, and the flames flicker, your “coals” stay hot. They keep your spirit alive so you don’t just give up, making

     it much easier to start the process again tomorrow. As long as your reasons are well grounded, you can always keep going.

    What Can Go Wrong

    1. No Oxygen (Just Going Through The Motions)

    Sometimes people just go through the motions. They aren’t curious anymore, and our life’s work starts to feel like a chore. That’s what happens when you cut off the oxygen. When you work without curiosity, it’s like closing the vent on a fireplace. You’re trying to burn wood, but you aren’t letting it breathe. Without air, you don’t get a nice warm fire. You just get a lot of smoke and feel drained. Working just because you “have to” feels like a waste of time. It leads to you feeling grumpy, bored, and tired of it all. You have to use raw willpower to get anything done. It’s exhausting, and you’re likely to give up once you get tired.

    1. Dying Coals (Burnout)

    Coals are what keep the heat steady. If you let your coals die and just try to keep a fire going with paper and twigs, you’re going to get burned out. This is like hustling really hard without a real reason. Without them, the fire goes out as soon as you stop feeding it. Working hard without a dream to support you takes a ton of effort. You get quick bursts of energy, but the moment you stop, you’re back to zero. Without your  “Why” (the coals), trying to stay motivated is exhausting. 

    1. Smothering the Fire (Feeling Stuck)

    Big logs need lots of heat to catch. You need tinder and kindling to build up the heat first.

    If you drop a huge log on a tiny match, it goes out instantly. This is like having big dreams without small habits to get you there. If you only think about the huge goal, you’ll feel overwhelmed. The goal is just too big to handle all at once, and you don’t know where to start. You don’t start with the log; you start with tinder. Trying to do too much at once just leads to feeling stressed and stuck.

    Troubleshooting the Problem

    If you feel stuck: Your goal is too big. Try starting with some tinder (tiny steps).

    If you’re busy but not getting anywhere: You’re burning through tinder but forgetting your kindling (habits and daily routines).

    If you feel burned out: You’re letting your coals die. Remember why you started in the first place.

    Final Thoughts

    You don’t finish a big project overnight. You do it by starting small, keeping a good routine, staying curious, and remembering why it matters.

    Staying curious is a skill you keep practicing, like tending a fire. By making sure your mind has plenty to burn, fresh air to breathe, and that spark of wonder, you can keep learning and growing your whole life. A well-tended mind doesn’t just help you—it shares its warmth with everyone around you.

    When curiosity, passion, and a little trial-and-error come together, they create something great. Your excitement starts the fire, your habits keep it going, and your curiosity keeps the air flowing, turning your hard work into real, lasting growth.

  • Essential Skills for Success in STEM: Initiative, Resolve, Perseverance, Resilience

    Essential Skills for Success in STEM: Initiative, Resolve, Perseverance, Resilience

    You may be doing well in your math and science courses, or perhaps you’re already interested in areas such as computer programming, robotics, or video game design. While a passion for STEM and strong academic performance are certainly vital, true success in these fields requires more than just intelligence.

    The key drivers—the qualities that will propel you through challenging projects, demanding courses, and even career setbacks—are the four absolutely vital tools in your personal growth toolkit for anyone charting a course in STEM: Initiative, Resolve, Perseverance, and Resilience.

    What is Initiative, Resolve, Perseverance, and Resilience? 

    1. Initiative

    What it is: The ability to self-start, take action without being told, and seek out new opportunities or skills.

    Why it matters in STEM: The STEM fields are constantly evolving. What you learn today may be outdated in five years. Initiative is crucial for lifelong learning—the willingness to constantly teach yourself new skills (computer programming, robotics, advanced data analysis, or new analytical instrumentation) to remain current and competitive in the industry.

    When performing research or problem-solving, it takes initiative to troubleshoot errors, design a better experiment, or learn to use a new piece of equipment before it’s required. It’s what drives you to excel.

    Example: Your Chemistry professor assigns an open-ended laboratory project. The explicit expectation is a successful, unique final product. You must show the initiative to search for resources, organize the necessary equipment and reagents, and learn to operate the necessary tools needed to complete the project because the assignment demands it, not just because you feel like it.

    2. Resolve

    What it is: A firm determination to achieve a specific goal, resisting distractions, and maintaining focus even when things get tough. The unwavering focus needed to complete a difficult project, solve a complex equation, or commit to the years of study required for a specialized field of study.

    Why it matters in STEM: STEM fields demand long-term commitment. Resolve is what helps you stay committed to completing that difficult assignment, even when exhaustion hits. Push through a difficult physics derivation, knowing the understanding will unlock new perspectives. See past a frustrating semester or a challenging first-year chemistry, physics, or math course, reminding you of your ultimate career aspirations. It’s the inner conviction that keeps you on track.

    Example: Introductory college courses, such as Organic Chemistry, Physics, and Calculus, are often intentionally challenging to test your preparedness to succeed in upper level courses. When faced with a low grade, resolve is the quality that prevents you from abandoning your major. Initiative is the drive to seek out help by finding a tutor, joining a study group, or meeting with the professor to grasp the material you do not understand, instead of simply giving up.

    3. Perseverance

    What it is: The sustained effort to keep working despite difficulties, serving as the dedication required to solve tough problems through hours of calculations, research, or repeated experiments. It’s the long-term, consistent effort.

    Why it matters in STEM: STEM is rarely a straight line to success. Perseverance means spending countless hours debugging computer programming, even when you’re convinced it’s flawless. Re-running an experiment five times because you’re confident there’s a pattern you’re missing. Staying up late to understand a complex mathematical concept until it finally clicks.

    Example: You struggle with a Chemistry laboratory assignment and are tempted to give up. Your instructor intervenes, not by giving you the answer, but by offering a small suggestion, confirming the difficulty of the task, and requiring you to follow up in an hour. This structured support prevents you from feeling abandoned in your efforts, reinforces the importance of struggle, and teaches you the value of perseverance.

    While the ultimate decision to continue is yours, external factors, the support from your instructor, are essential. The setting of an expectation, the modelling of how to continue in the process, and the structured support act as powerful motivations, transforming your ability to just keep going into an established, automatic behavior (perseverance).

    4. Resilience

    What it is: The capacity to recover quickly from setbacks, disappointments, or outright failures, viewing setbacks not as defining moments but as valuable data and learning opportunities. 

    Why it matters in STEM: Failure isn’t a setback in STEM; it’s a feature. Scientific discovery often involves many “failed” experiments before a breakthrough. Resilience allows you to: bounce back from a low test score, analyze what went wrong, and adjust your study habits.

    Example: It can be challenging for you to picture what “resilience” looks like. Mentors provide a crucial model. When you witness your research advisor’s experiment fail, and instead of getting discouraged, your advisor calmly analyzes the data, identifies the potential sources of error, and immediately starts correcting the issues for the next trial run. These actions model resilience and teaches you how to respond appropriately to setbacks.

    STEM fields are characterized by constant challenges and an emphasis on complex problem-solving. Success relies less on your natural talent and more on your willingness to engage in a productive learning process. And that success rarely comes on the first try. It is common for an experiment to produce unexpected results or a mathematical proof to contain an error. Instead of seeing these setbacks as personal shortcomings, students need the mindsets of resilience and perseverance to see a failure as a starting point.

    Is Initiative, Resolve, Perseverance, and Resilience a Personality Trait or a Learned Skill?

    Initiative, resolve, perseverance, and resilience are generally understood as learned behaviors. Psychologists like Carol Dweck argue that these qualities stem from a Growth Mindset—the belief that our abilities and intelligence can be developed, rather than a fixed personality trait.  While some people might appear naturally more determined to manage and learn from their struggles, everyone has the capacity to develop these essential skills. 

    Think of initiative, resolve, perseverance, and resilience as learned skills that, when practiced consistently, become an integral, defining part of your character or personality. For a STEM student, it is critical to recognize the value in treating them as skills that require deliberate practice.

    The Power of Role Models, Mentors, and External Expectations

    The skills of initiative, resolve, perseverance, and resilience isn’t something you can achieve entirely on your own, however you can always begin the process. The most effective and the smoothest path to growth in these areas requires external guidance. Role models, mentors, and the right external expectations act as a vital catalyst in forging these qualities.

    How do role models, mentors, and external expectations cultivate these critical skills? Here are four key examples:

    Observation: Professors, Mentors, and Role Models provide critical “how-to” knowledge. Observing an experienced chemist handle an instrument failure calmly or a scientist gracefully accept and learn from a failed experiment offers a real-world demonstration of resilience and perseverance in action.

    Accountability: External expectations, whether it is from a professor, mentor, or a course syllabus, establish defined goals and deadlines that require action. Taking on a challenging project with its external pressures, its deadlines and reporting requirements, serves as a catalyst. It triggers the initiative needed to start and, crucially, builds the internal resolve and strength required for sustained effort toward completion.

    A Defined Strategy for Success: Effective teachers and mentors avoid simply giving answers. Instead, they offer focused, constructive feedback, guide individuals through roadblocks, and recognize small achievements. This strategic support reinforces successful behaviors, driving long-term competence and success.

    Reinforcement and Feedback: These critical skills are only learned effectively when you receive balanced feedback from your professors and mentors, parents as well – positive reinforcement when you suceed and constructive criticism when you fall short. 

    A Strategy for Your Personal Growth and Success

    As you navigate your academic life and plan for a career in science, technology, engineering, or math, your focus must extend beyond formulas and facts. You need to actively look for opportunities to develop your initiative, resolve, perseverance, and resilience. So take action with the following approach:

    1. Embrace the Hard Stuff: Never shy away from difficult assignments or complex projects. Challenges are opportunities in disguise.

    2. Treat Failures as Data: Every setback is not an end, but a valuable data point. Analyze what went wrong and adjust your approach.

    3. Actively Seek Mentors: Find someone whose approach to challenges inspires you, and commit to learning from their wisdom and experience.

    4. Practice Self-Reflection: When things get tough, take a moment to ask yourself: How did I react? What could I do differently next time?

    Conclusion

    These qualities are not just career buzzwords; they are the foundation of personal growth and the essential fuel for scientific discovery and innovation. The combination of strong grades and these four psychological attributes is what ultimately separates a good student from future success in their career path, capable of making a difference in a STEM field. Cultivate them, and you will do more than just succeed in STEM; you will thrive in every aspect of your life.